Do you ever look back and find that one question haunting you? Isn’t that question the one we all regret on or be happy about? We meet at cross roads and face the most important decisions of our lives. We tend to always see the two roads that lead to something. That something we aren’t still aware of because we haven’t made the decision of which road to take. The road we finally decide to take and see that something, do we meet that something and say ‘oh you are the one I was waiting for’ or say ‘damn! You are all get for coming here’. The circumstances I guess varies and decisions we take influences us to walk to that path. Well do we have any regrets for some of the decisions you guys took in the past? Is it worth cribbing about it and pondering the same question tag ‘why’ again and again? I believe in the saying that ‘Have no regrets in life, coz it’s not worth it’. I tend to easily say this but maybe when I look back on some of my decisions, I don’t always have a smile on my face. But I do look content enough coz that taught me something. Well, this is not exactly the topic I wanted to get to but ‘my thought never hold back’ so let them flow. Let’s come down to what I actually want to blog today.
As I am creature of ‘questions’, I ask myself how we are bond to such beautiful things in life but sometimes our ego fails to show us the reality? Can we fight that ego of ours and say ‘dude! Off with you I have a life to lead’. According to the Bhagavad-Gita (Holy book of the Hindus), it says that ego is one of the things that detours a man on his path to ‘Nirvana’! Nah, it’s not the rock band, well money and time detours getting to Nirvana, the Rock band. Well coming back the Gita also says something beautiful… ‘Don’t expect and you never will be disappointed’, Attachments are the cause of all misery’s, work your arse off and leave the results to come. Yeah sure that’s my version of the Gita, only if Lord Krishna used slang like this, would have been much cooler ;). Anyways the one that interests me the most is ‘Attachments being the cause of all misery’. Well I so want to agree to it coz ‘been there done that’ but also want to stand up to the lord and say dude!! That’s not true. Hmmm…this issue was actually bought up by a dear friend. He called his mom loving him unconditionally ‘a misery’ to him; Well, sorry not misery but I just wanted to relate the feeling to the saying in the Gita; hope you guys understand what I mean. Again, being loved and loving somebody is definitely an awesome feeling but what if this love forces you into things that you don’t want. The word love and compromise actually co-exist I think. Should anybody be loved or love just to wake up one day to write down a list of compromises he or she has to start working on. Is that sort of love actually called ‘love’ or is it just ‘getting used’? My friend was actually right; we see that unconditional love in someone for us or same towards someone else that every step we take doesn’t only affect our life(singular) but lives of maybe 5 people. I am talking about the unconditionally loved people. Lucky you!! If the number is larger but equally gruesome when you just want to go and lead your life.
I had to think of number of people i would put into worry when I had to ‘bungee jump’. I hope my dad doesn’t call me up after this sentence. But I did the jump, coz I wanted to do it all my life but before I took the leap I had a hundred pro’s and con’s in my head. Not con’s about my life, yeah sure!!It was dangerous but the thought of all the people who mean a lot to me and would I cause them pain when I do this. These things brushed through my mind first rather than wondering if the cord is strong enough to hold me. Well…..Hauptsache (important) I did it, I survived.
Well what is life? If you want to live it but need to think of thousand excuses to just live it. So do I agree with my friend, yeah sure!!! but hang on…I am not that easy, I can look through the other side of the wall as well….you know:) Just read on you will soon see what I see. SO is it right to be held back because 'love exists'? Or should you consider yourself happy that you are one of them who as seen, felt, experienced love? Unlike the millions of the homeless orphans who have no go, no say and indeed feel lost and lost the right to live. What is life if not loved by somebody or not to love somebody? Do we walk out on this feeling just coz ‘crazier version of human beings like me’ just have the ‘high for life’!!!?
Exactly coming back now, this is what I was talking about the misery attachment in the Gita, well it’s not exactly misery but also not exactly something you pop open a beer bottle to celebrate on rather it does indeed cause pain. Coz’ your are held back and you start working up on compromises, does this make you a better human being or just someone out there who wants to be noticed (philosophically). SO, love causes pain, brings tears, does hold us back but still we can NEVER avoid it nor walk away from it. We get addicted to it, because the feeling is better than Marijuana. Let is just be my dad calling to check how I am doing or sis buzzing me on yahoo to bug me so I smile at her silliness or my friend asking if I had dinner (otherwise he will want to come over and eat if I did cook :D) Things like love unconditional ones, you know it that the feeling is so beautiful that we are okay with inviting some misery into our lives to just have it.
Okay I took a small ice cream break and now my thoughts are mixed up and don’t know exactly what I was supposed to write in. So that’s it for now, will write in more soon.
Don’t run away from love, dwell a lil in the ‘misery’, it’s worth it.
*No pain no gain
This reminds me, dont experience love and walk away from it, your decision but...do walk into the 'love parade' in Berlin this July.
P.s- This one is for my dad, who doesn’t say it much but I know the ‘unconditional nature of his love’ towards me:) Love you dad.
5 Kommentare:
Finally we have a post !! Every freakin' blogger is nowadays concerened about love - what is it with the subject :P Enticing nonetheless is your stand on the subject or rather no stand on the subject ;-) Unconditional love as you very well said can be very demanding of the loved one and also force one into compromises. I also agree that for this love any price is worth paying. But what I don't quite get is 'why' (not 'what') your friend had problems with the 'misery' so to say of his/her mom's unconditional love. Your take on the subject is overwhelming and detailed and so won't dwell on the same points again to sound redundant :P though I do have a consideration for you :-)
You gave a view of the loved one and the compromises involved, but what you still haven't acknowledged is the person who showers that unconditonal love on you - have you ever felt this way before ? The feeling of giving up everything to just make that very person happy who is busy fretting over the compromises he/she has had to make due to that very unconditional love ?! Giving unconditonal love is a difficult task coz in the end you overlook everything - all assumptions, all prejudices, all ego clashes to give that one person a sense of belonging and let it be known that there is at least one person in the world who shall be affected by the turn of events of his/her loved one's life. You wilfully agreed to your friend, but step into the shoes of that mother who showers that love - did she ever mean it to be an obligation? Its very easy to crib abt stuff than to step into someone else's shoes and view everything in third person. It can be anything as trivial as superstition - suppose ur mom tells you not to trim your nails after darkness - would it hurt you if you could just agree with her and make sure you can do it some time else ? Well if you do such a thing then you're suppressing your instinct and compromising but in the process aren't you also demonstrating unconditional love? ;-) Kyun, confused a bit ? :P Isn't unconditional love expectation free ? after all it is unconditional. Think abt it .. will come back again to check your response :)
Well you had ice-cream .... yummy am gonna have one too .... so what if its 1 in the morning .. I 'unconditionally love' ice-cream and am not going to make any compromises to stay away from it :D Yup am a bit drowsy right now but will comment in more later .. rest assured of that ;-)
Ciao
Hey dude!! Thanks for commenting,you are one of the reasons that keeps me writing. well about your comment, yes i need to still think about your comment but yes i do agress with you. Thats why in the end i said, 'dwell in that misery coz its woth it'. The feeling of unconditional love is indeed hard to get and once found...hard to let go as well...be it all the compromises you can make. I tried to put in both sides of the coin in this article. So me, sure i am ready for the compromise but sometimes, it does get on ur nerve. Well something sooo precious doesnt come easy does it???
Have a nice day:)
I agree with your stand about the past..We can keep regretting about some past and yes some of regrets may be too difficult to forget but the eternal truth is that we can't change anything happened so it is better to make your past your favourite teacher and learn from it as much as you can...
About ego..interestingly I have written one post on ego before reading this post and I believe ego is one's biggest enemy.
The feeling of unconditioned love that we get is beyond any other feeling and many times inexplicable also..coz words actually give some form to the feelings and the beauty of the feelings are that they are formless.
Sometimes making comprmises in these kinds of love relationship may be difficult. And sometimes we also make some compromises to see our loved ones happy..But what I feel is its not actually a comprmoise..theoretically it may be but not from a viepoint of love..Actually these kinds of situtations are associated with tension of opposites..We want sth to happen in some way and happens in some other way or others want them to happen in some different way..And in our daily life we face so many tension of opposites..and according to me Love always wins in every kind of tension of opposition. If it can be seen from this viewpoint then it wont be a comprmise it would be victory of love..and it was already destined coz LOVe was always there and it always wins....if this viewpoint can be understood then we will always live merrily..offcourse fights, arguments etc. will always be there but LOVE ( whether it is unconditioned or sth of other type) will always win...
Hi! Stumbled upon your blog, and this post made quite an interesting reading. I don't wish to delve into the intricacies of ego, love, or things like that; they entail a more philosophical discussion, and any discussion of this kind would definitely not produce an objective outcome. Having said that, I think its worthwhile to focus on the "inner self" first, before one could branch out with an extensive analysis.Just my view of things (1) If you want to do something, JUST DO IT, no matter what others feel, or say about it (2) Enjoy whatever you do, coz. life is not forever. (3) Think twice before you do anything (4) If you decide to go for something, then go for it, and never regret having done that.
Quoting Gita, everything, and everybody has a purpose in life. We're just intruments in the hands of God. If thats true, then the means to an end have already been thought of. My 2 cents.
Hi! Stumbled upon your blog, and this post made quite an interesting reading. I don't wish to delve into the intricacies of ego, love, or things like that; they entail a more philosophical discussion, and any discussion of this kind would definitely not produce an objective outcome. Having said that, I think its worthwhile to focus on the "inner self" first, before one could branch out with an extensive analysis.Just my view of things (1) If you want to do something, JUST DO IT, no matter what others feel, or say about it (2) Enjoy whatever you do, coz. life is not forever. (3) Think twice before you do anything (4) If you decide to go for something, then go for it, and never regret having done that.
Quoting Gita, everything, and everybody has a purpose in life. We're just intruments in the hands of God. If thats true, then the means to an end have already been thought of. My 2 cents.
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